MY MUMMY’S CANE
A Pastor and his wife decided to visit a very
committed member of the church one Saturday afternoon. The pastor had
recommended the man to the church board for the next set of Deacons in the
church. He was punctual and had handled so many responsibilities handed to him
very well. A church needs such people in her workforce.
As they arrived the member’s place he welcomed
them with a sweet smile. He ushered them to a seat. They felt so welcomed. The man asked to go into the room to tell his
wife. As the pastor wanted to seat he noticed a rather large stick, he picked
it up and was about to toss it to the side when the man’s very young boy spoke.
“That is my mummy’s cane”
The pastor and his wife felt so disappointed in
the man’s wife. It was rather large stick! The pastor’s wife drew the boy close
and spoke to his ear
“We will tell your mummy not to beat you with
the stick again”
The boy looked at them puzzlingly and spoke out
loud.
“It is the cane my Daddy uses to beat my mummy
when they are fighting everyday!”
“Jesus!” they both exclaimed
I ask myself why the number of men who beat
their wives is astronomically high and still increasing. Many ladies are
walking around bruised and battered with forced smiles and make up covering the
so many marks of constant physical assault by men they profess to love.
What could make a man hit a woman? I have
thought this over and I have been married for over four years now and though
there were times my sweetheart made me so angry but the thought of hitting her
never came! No it never came! Why would I hit her? The worst I have ever done
is to walk away.
But there are many men out there who are not
disciplined enough. They easily get into fights with their siblings, bus
conductors, petrol station attendants and as such would not pass over a chance
to fight their wives.
No matter how perfectly deceptive a man may be, there are signs that will give him away.There are signs to look out for in a
man that could point to him being a potential wife beater! Will just mention
them here but later right deeply about them. The abusive man will have mood
swings that could be within a fraction of a second. He could change moods from Aggressive
and abusive to Apologetic and caring and back again to Aggressive within a
matter of minutes. He is manipulative, jealous, and possessive and tries to
keep you away from friends and family. He is always right and must win in all
situations. He shouts at you even in public and beats his siblings.
So, what if a lady is already in an abusive
relationship? If you are not married to
him please end that relationship before he ends you. If you are married to him,
report his case to your pastors. If you notice that the beating continues,
please ask for a separation. Run away from him. As fast as you can.
For men, who are wife beaters, you have a
problem. Seek help. See your pastors or contact me 08038343211 or 07044967658.
Let us talk and pray about it. God can change you and save your marriage. There
is hope for your home and for you.
May God not let me fall victim of such in Jesus name. But what happens in a scenario where you have an overly troublesome wife where the only way to calm her down is by beating her. ive seen a woman who doesnt understand anything and would never listen to the voice of reasoning except she is caned. Her husband tries so hard to make things better but this woman would go out and pick fights with the neighbours and even when the husband tries to control her she never listens, in fact she literally behaves like a goat. The neighbours are often relieved when the man is around and once he starts beating her no one tries to stop him as they all know that is the only language she understands. Would you blame such a man?
ReplyDeleteBeating her up is never a solution. the man ought to think of the kids and the fact that so much damage can arise from constantly beating her up. she could die..so what then?
Deletehas he tried counselling? what about prayer? two wrongs don't make a right.
He has issues if he feels beating her is the only solution. has he tried the best solution of all? ...loving her
May God forgive me but sometimes i always feel the man is justified, putting myself in his shoes i dont know what id do
ReplyDeleteActing out our feelings does not mean it is the right thing to do. She may be a difficult person but we do not know where she is coming from and the issues she has dealt with. that's why love can help. have we tried loving her?
DeleteWe should be led by the spirit and not by our feelings which may be wrongly motivated.